Ok, I usually don't ask questions, because by lurking around here for a couple hours I can find what I am looking for. This one has me stumped though, and I'm not entirely sure that what I want is possible easily.
I have a setup where I would like to be able to log in locally and also with the same username over ssh + vnc and manipulate the same running programs over either session. Basically I want to act like I just sat down in front of the computer whether I did or not - I leave it logged in almost all the time.
The reason why I do not want to use x0vncserver is because my local display is 1920x1080 and I need to slam it down to 1366x768 or the VNC connection gets slow. I did not find a way to do that with vncserver without running it as a separate display. (I am using tigervncserver by the way)
So far the only option I can think of that I haven't tried yet would be to ALWAYS log in over VNC, and use a different local username. Perhaps I'll give that a go unless someone here can help me with a better answer. Does anyone know a way to do what I want?