It's in the docs ...
KDE Configuration ...
However, you cannot give sudo access before a user is logged in ...
Since kdm must run before any user is logged in, it is not associated with any particular user. Therefore, it is not possible to have user-specific configuration files; all users share the common kdmrc. It follows from this that the configuration of kdm can only be altered by those users that have write access to $KDEDIR/share/config/kdm/kdmrc
(normally restricted to system administrators logged in as root).
Edit: I apologize. The answer above does not address the problem ... for clarification I believe this is a possible workaround ...
I tried this and it seems to work ...
su -
[password]
cd ~/.kde/share/apps
ln -s /home/[user]/.kde/share/apps/color-schemes ./color-schemes
ln -s /home/[user]/.kde/share/apps/QtCurve ./QtCurve